becoming desperate

If you haven’t been on a date or intimacy at the right time, you’re susceptible to becoming desperate.

So you’ve been single for quite some time. Although you know that you’re a catch and feel good about yourself, you still can’t seem to meet eligible singles mutually interested in dating.

Finally you do meet someone who interests you but you don’t want to scare them away, here’s how to keep your cool.

DON’T MAKE EXCUSES!

If you took all the excuses away from your relationship, would you still have one?

You haven’t had a second date, and you haven’t seen each other recently. You never spend weekends together and you’re always the one making contact first.

It doesn’t really sound like you’re dating at all.

While these are the types of events that take place, a desperate person will consistently defend the courtship as if it’s perfectly reasonable.

They were sick, they were busy, they have work demands, or their phone doesn't make outgoing calls.

No matter the outlandish scenario there is always a good explanation according to the desperate dater.

DON’T BE TOO EAGER TO PLEASE

If you’re constantly going out of your way to make dating you convenient, you are acting desperate. Accepting to meet later than you want to, to accommodate the other person’s schedule. Accepting cancellations or rain checks without objection.

Going above and beyond for someone who barely deserves a return phone call are all acts of desperation.

Agreeing too quickly, readily and too often is a clear sign that you’re trying too hard to please your date.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY NO

If you say no they might never ask you out again, speak to you again or consider dating you period. If you say no they will meet someone else, date someone else, or be so angry with you that you’ll lose all of their love and attention.

Saying no could mean never getting the opportunity to say yes again.

If you’re afraid that saying no or disagreeing with your date means the end of you dating, you’re desperate.

The only way to truly avoid desperate behavior is to accept that there is an abundance of amazing dates out there. There are more attractive, interesting, sexy and fun single men and women out there than you could ever have time to date.

When you meet potential dates you should only continue to date them if they possess the qualities that you like in a person, not because you believe they are the best that you can do.

To avoid desperate behavior, understand that there are PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA.

There are more people to date and you are worth better, almost always. Once you accept this, you’ll understand that there are more potential dates out there, if you’re willing to put yourself in the position to meet them.